Our silver anniversary show explores how the inability to “feel the pain” of another generation has some workplaces rippling with turmoil. Why can’t Boomers, GenX and GenY make nice at the office? A few companies are proactively seeking the answer. Please take our listener poll. Pretty please? I have oodles of leftover candy for ya. Here kitty, kitty.

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Last night I heard a great story about Matt. He was close to getting fired. Instead he got promoted. He ran into trouble speaking up at project meetings. He asked about costs. Where would the budget come from? What was the time frame? How would things work with competing projects? He was in operations. A detail person. He was a thorn in Laura’s side.

She was a senior member of the team. She is all about change and innovation. A big picture person. She makes things happen. Who was he to stand in her way? She let his manager know about her unhappiness. She went so far as to suggest Matt get a coach. If he didn’t shape up, he would need to look for another job.
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Sammy just got downsized. He’s devastated. What will he say to his partner? His kids? They depnd on him. He’s in his 40s. His manager has talked alot about youth. They’re cheaper. They’ve better computer skills. More savvy with Internet marketing. Less responsibilities. He’s worried he won’t ever make the same money. How will he live on less? No loyalty. No protection. No future.
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I just heard from Sarah, an Alpha-Woman. Sarah’s in pain. Her husband John has shutdown. He hasn’t made decent money for over 6 months. Time passes. There’s no hope on the horizon.

The more time passes the less Sarah gets through to John. He disappears behind the newspaper. He hides glued to the TV. When confronted, his eyes glaze over. To add insult to injury, John does less and less around the house. He says he has no time. The more Sarah’s frustrated, the less she gets through to John.
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Role reversal with a capital $. When she makes more money than he it can spell The End for some couples. Solution? R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Aretha had it right! Show milestone: 1200+ regular listeners and growing. Thank you, thank you!

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They are disciples of destructive dialogue, pervading harsh and hurtful words at work and at home. Motivators? HA! Exactly the opposite. Beware: The Criticizer.

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I’m psyched! My newest podcast now has a home…

If you’ve ever wondered how career and life coaching really works, and whether it’s right for you, I think PTM Cast can sort it all out for you. Please give a listen let me know if this is useful, okay? Thanks, so much!

Harriet

Early this morning Sue called complaining about Julie, her best friend since college. Julie apparently was bonding with her new boyrfriend, Steve. Part of the way she connected was to call Sue a loser. Sue was 35 and would never get it right with a man.

Thre was no denying it. It was in black and white on the email. The one Julie was asking Steve to go with her and Sue to meet the new guy. For some unknown reason Julie Cc’d Sue. Then she pressed send. Maybe a bit trigger happy. . . maybe intentional. May never know.

The friendship between the two women came to a screeching halt. With some embarrassment, Sue admitted she and Julie had talked about people behind their backs. She just never thought that Julie would do it to her.

It’s painful to be betrayed by someone you’ve trusted. Backstabbing is more common than I’d like to believe. It’s part of office politics. Some families do it. Some friends have done it.

One thing I know for sure. Stabbing a friend/co-worker/relative in the back breaks trust. Doesn’t have to be a close friend to permanently pollute the waters. Once trust is broken, the environment is poisoned.

Before jumping on the bonding bandwagon by ganging up against someone who is not there, think about the bigger picture. Trust is the rock bottom foundation of a relationship.

Remember, no one is protected in this game. You could be the next target. The best any of us can do is to stay clean.

Blogging sounds so simple so why am I having such a hard time getting started?  The more I think about it the more I believe it’s because I don’t really know what’s on your mind. I started Ask Dr. Harriet (and The Go-Go Girl, the alter-ego my podcast partner Ken created for me) because I am a woman on a mission.

I have a fantastic track record in coaching some of the world’s most wonderful people who have had so much going for them but for one reason or another were not achieving their dreams. I have been able to help most everyone to reach their dreams. That’s what I want to do for you. When I’m coaching, I know where a person is coming from, what they want, and what may be standing in the way. In other words, the information I need to help get you there. 

So, here’s the invitation: let me know your situation, what you would like help with achieving, what you see standing in the way. Use any user name you desire. Then, let’s start the conversation.

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