Archive for the ‘Communication’ Category

#51 Mommy, why do I have three dads?

Tuesday, June 24th, 2008

Welcome to my very first premium episode of Ask Dr. Harriet. Today, we meet a woman who not only is one of the foremost experts on divorce and the growing phenomenon of the multiple step family, she and her husband also are part of a large blended family. Ann Ordway is a divorce lawyer in New Jersey specializing in couples mediation, communication and family counseling. The sometimes devastating ways in which divorce and re-marriage impact children is why Ann and husband Steve started Little Voices. In this episode we discuss how you know when divorce is the only alternative, and steps you can take now to prevent your relationship from reaching that point. We also delve into how divorce has evolved in society, and what that means for children growing up. Music heard on this show includes Wouldn’t It Be Nice, by the Beach Boys and It’s Your Lucky Day Now, by AJ and the Frozen Tundra Blues Band.

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Laura Don’t Bolt

Friday, June 6th, 2008

Harriet KatzLaura’s call was the fifth call I received in the past two weeks. She was hysterical. Just a little while ago she was thrilled. She finally met Larry after being alone for 17 years. Her last serious relationship was shortly after college. She adores him. He loves her. He is recently divorced. The fly in the ointment: he has three teenagers. All of them are angry. Scared. Demanding.

Larry feels guilty much of the time. It wasn’t only his idea to break up the family. His wife was fed up with him as well. He still wants to be a good father. He is loaded with guilt. He is always buying the kids presents. Running around with them. But not spending enough “quality time.” Laura has been feeling like the fifth wheel. An unwilling competitor. She is beginning to doubt if they will ever have a reasonable life together. Wondering if being single is better than getting on board this ship.

Laura, getting Larry involves the whole complicated package. But if you love each other, it can be worked out. Not overnight. It will likely be a long challenging process. You will need to deal with anger you don’t deserve. With the kids competing for Larry’s love and attention until everyone finds a comfortable place. It will require a lot of patience. Understanding. Persistence. It can work. It can also bring you and Larry closer. And possibly ultimately a close relationship with one of more of the kids. Have you been through a similar situation? What happened? What did you learn from it? What, if anything, would you do differently now?

#49 – Crossroads

Wednesday, April 23rd, 2008

Funny how doing anything for exactly one year can often spawn an epiphany. It tugs at us to change direction, however minor the adjustment, to breathe new life into what seemed perfectly on-course until that 365 day marker appeared in the rearview mirror. Okay, enough suspense already. Harriet Katz is branching out! And what an exciting ride it is going to be! Music heard on this show includes You Ain’t Seen Nothin Yet by Bachman Turner Overdrive.

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Micro Managers

Monday, April 21st, 2008

Harriet KatzI got an earful from John the other day. His boss won’t let him breathe. Since the new guy took over his department, John’s interest and enthusiasm has dropped. He says this guy is always looking over his shoulder. Criticizing his approach. Openly or not so openly letting him know his way is the only way.

There’s a lot of talk in organizations about performance. Raising performance. The big question is how can anyone perform who can barely breath? Does that mean John or anyone in that situation needs to leave in order to move their career along? Depends. (more…)

#47 – Are We There Yet?

Tuesday, April 8th, 2008

female symbolWomen’s Lib. Betty Friedan. Rowe v Wade. Helen Reddy. What would you say are the three most significant changes for women that have taken place in the last 30 to 40 years? And what do they mean for women today and tomorrow? Our guest this week is Dr. Debra Kaufman, Director of Womens’ Studies at Northeastern University. Music heard on this show includes “I Am Woman” by Helen Reddy and “Ain’t No Stoppin’ Us Now” by Zindy.

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Your Dime

Tuesday, April 1st, 2008

Harriet KatzI heard from a listener that this week’s podcast on Mother/Daughter Relationships was not helpful. My (seemingly “idyllic”) experience with my daughter Gabi doesn’t resemble normal mother/daughter relationships. I disagree. (more…)

#46 – Mother-Daughter Relationships

Monday, March 31st, 2008

mother-daughter.jpg Today, an intimate snapshot of a very special, adult mother-daughter relationship. Thank you, Gabi! Music this episode includes “Child of Mine” by Carole King.

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#45 – Cheating Men

Monday, March 24th, 2008

spitzer_thumb.jpg Why do males of our species stray? Can personal history predict a repeat performance? How critical are communication breakdowns? Ladies, here’s a home remedy guaranteed to work magic on your relationship. Warning: you may not like the taste.

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#44 – He-She Stuff

Monday, March 17th, 2008

It’s advice time. Ken dipped into our email bag and found five great questions- all about the never-ending battle of the sexes! Music includes “The Leprechaun” by the Brobodingnagrian Bards.

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Betrayed Wives

Sunday, March 16th, 2008

Harriet KatzI’ve been thinking about conversations taking place between husbands and wives around the world since Eliot Spitzer’s betrayal of his wife Silda hit the news. Why does their problem resonate so loudly to so many? Because betrayal is more widespread than we’d like to believe. Once discovered, trust is broken. Trust is the very foundation of a relationship. The question is, can it be repaired? (more…)