Sharon’s in her 40s, beautiful, trim, outgoing, active, has a good career and says she is ready for love and committment. She wonders why she can’t find the right guy. Turns out, like so many people, Sharon has no chance of changing things until she becomes available. I’ve a homework assignment that’s perfect for procrastinators: it’s not due until next Turkey Day! Happy Thanksgiving, friends!

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Our silver anniversary show explores how the inability to “feel the pain” of another generation has some workplaces rippling with turmoil. Why can’t Boomers, GenX and GenY make nice at the office? A few companies are proactively seeking the answer. Please take our listener poll. Pretty please? I have oodles of leftover candy for ya. Here kitty, kitty.

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You suppose Socrates knew something about the dating process? He certainly hit on the big key to finding your ideal life partner. Now if we could only remember to follow his wisdom. Instead, our expectations hog the stage. A shout out to our friends and family in wildfire ravaged SoCal, and Ken gets a note from home.

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I just heard from Sarah, an Alpha-Woman. Sarah’s in pain. Her husband John has shutdown. He hasn’t made decent money for over 6 months. Time passes. There’s no hope on the horizon.

The more time passes the less Sarah gets through to John. He disappears behind the newspaper. He hides glued to the TV. When confronted, his eyes glaze over. To add insult to injury, John does less and less around the house. He says he has no time. The more Sarah’s frustrated, the less she gets through to John.
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Role reversal with a capital $. When she makes more money than he it can spell The End for some couples. Solution? R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Aretha had it right! Show milestone: 1200+ regular listeners and growing. Thank you, thank you!

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Mary reminded me of what life is like for The Outsider. She is 50 and her older sister, Sue, is 56. In the early years mom was alcoholic and could get pretty nasty. Dad flew the coup before Mary was 10. It was a home filled with anger and accusations. Sue has never been happy. Doesn’t matter that she married and raised two kids. She used to rant at mom. Now it’s Mary. Holidays have turned into nightmares for Mary.

Last summer mom fell and broke her hip. She’s now finished rehab and back home. Whatever Mary does it’s never good enough. (more…)

They are disciples of destructive dialogue, pervading harsh and hurtful words at work and at home. Motivators? HA! Exactly the opposite. Beware: The Criticizer.

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We’ve got a do over! Well, almost. This is what happens when I answer my fan mail. Hope you’re happy now, Charlie!

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Early this morning Sue called complaining about Julie, her best friend since college. Julie apparently was bonding with her new boyrfriend, Steve. Part of the way she connected was to call Sue a loser. Sue was 35 and would never get it right with a man.

Thre was no denying it. It was in black and white on the email. The one Julie was asking Steve to go with her and Sue to meet the new guy. For some unknown reason Julie Cc’d Sue. Then she pressed send. Maybe a bit trigger happy. . . maybe intentional. May never know.

The friendship between the two women came to a screeching halt. With some embarrassment, Sue admitted she and Julie had talked about people behind their backs. She just never thought that Julie would do it to her.

It’s painful to be betrayed by someone you’ve trusted. Backstabbing is more common than I’d like to believe. It’s part of office politics. Some families do it. Some friends have done it.

One thing I know for sure. Stabbing a friend/co-worker/relative in the back breaks trust. Doesn’t have to be a close friend to permanently pollute the waters. Once trust is broken, the environment is poisoned.

Before jumping on the bonding bandwagon by ganging up against someone who is not there, think about the bigger picture. Trust is the rock bottom foundation of a relationship.

Remember, no one is protected in this game. You could be the next target. The best any of us can do is to stay clean.

When secrets threaten a trust they undermine the relationship. Ken battles a loud garden tool at 20 paces (but the shrubs look great, thanks Mark)!

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