Archive for the ‘Dating’ Category

#51 Mommy, why do I have three dads?

Tuesday, June 24th, 2008

Welcome to my very first premium episode of Ask Dr. Harriet. Today, we meet a woman who not only is one of the foremost experts on divorce and the growing phenomenon of the multiple step family, she and her husband also are part of a large blended family. Ann Ordway is a divorce lawyer in New Jersey specializing in couples mediation, communication and family counseling. The sometimes devastating ways in which divorce and re-marriage impact children is why Ann and husband Steve started Little Voices. In this episode we discuss how you know when divorce is the only alternative, and steps you can take now to prevent your relationship from reaching that point. We also delve into how divorce has evolved in society, and what that means for children growing up. Music heard on this show includes Wouldn’t It Be Nice, by the Beach Boys and It’s Your Lucky Day Now, by AJ and the Frozen Tundra Blues Band.

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Laura Don’t Bolt

Friday, June 6th, 2008

Harriet KatzLaura’s call was the fifth call I received in the past two weeks. She was hysterical. Just a little while ago she was thrilled. She finally met Larry after being alone for 17 years. Her last serious relationship was shortly after college. She adores him. He loves her. He is recently divorced. The fly in the ointment: he has three teenagers. All of them are angry. Scared. Demanding.

Larry feels guilty much of the time. It wasn’t only his idea to break up the family. His wife was fed up with him as well. He still wants to be a good father. He is loaded with guilt. He is always buying the kids presents. Running around with them. But not spending enough “quality time.” Laura has been feeling like the fifth wheel. An unwilling competitor. She is beginning to doubt if they will ever have a reasonable life together. Wondering if being single is better than getting on board this ship.

Laura, getting Larry involves the whole complicated package. But if you love each other, it can be worked out. Not overnight. It will likely be a long challenging process. You will need to deal with anger you don’t deserve. With the kids competing for Larry’s love and attention until everyone finds a comfortable place. It will require a lot of patience. Understanding. Persistence. It can work. It can also bring you and Larry closer. And possibly ultimately a close relationship with one of more of the kids. Have you been through a similar situation? What happened? What did you learn from it? What, if anything, would you do differently now?

#44 – He-She Stuff

Monday, March 17th, 2008

It’s advice time. Ken dipped into our email bag and found five great questions- all about the never-ending battle of the sexes! Music includes “The Leprechaun” by the Brobodingnagrian Bards.

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#33 – Best of 2007

Monday, December 31st, 2007

Harriet Katz

Ring in 2008 with a look back at our favorite moments of Ask Dr. Harriet. Ken and I hope you get as much enjoyment from listening to the very best of 2007 as we had bringing them to you! We’re excited about what’s cooking for our second season. Happy New Year my friends! Thanks so much for your loyalty! ~ Harriet.

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#29 – The User

Tuesday, December 4th, 2007

Harriet Katz

Users usually want money. Yours. Or sex. Maybe you’ve dated one of these guys. Trouble is, users are not easily spotted. Often they come disguised as well-meaning relatives, or the neighbor who never seems to have whatever it is he/she is always borrowing. Users are expert manipulators. Here’s how (and when) to say NO and mean it.

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Music this episode includes “29” by Dominic Castillo and the Rock Savants.

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#27 – The Unavailable

Tuesday, November 20th, 2007

Harriet Katz

Sharon’s in her 40s, beautiful, trim, outgoing, active, has a good career and says she is ready for love and committment. She wonders why she can’t find the right guy. Turns out, like so many people, Sharon has no chance of changing things until she becomes available. I’ve a homework assignment that’s perfect for procrastinators: it’s not due until next Turkey Day! Happy Thanksgiving, friends!

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#26 40-plus & Unmarried

Tuesday, November 13th, 2007

Harriet Katz

For the over-40 crowd it is fast-becoming the new normal. De-stigmatized by society, a growing number are committed cohabitants who show up as “single” when the census folks come ’round. But that’s only part of it.

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#24 – Know Thyself

Monday, October 29th, 2007

Harriet KatzYou suppose Socrates knew something about the dating process? He certainly hit on the big key to finding your ideal life partner. Now if we could only remember to follow his wisdom. Instead, our expectations hog the stage. A shout out to our friends and family in wildfire ravaged SoCal, and Ken gets a note from home.

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Time to Bolt?

Sunday, September 30th, 2007

I got to thinking today about a comment Valerie made about her relationship that recently ended. It was not the first time I heard that remark. Broken hearted Valerie told me that she and Vince had felt so comfortable with each other when they first became an item. They could talk about anything. She felt so free to be herself.  She felt adored and appreciated. He seemed too as well. Being together was easy. It was safe. It was wonderful. Then something changed.

 It wasn’t safe any longer. She felt criticized. He was not himself anymore. When they were together, they didn’t have anything to say. They would sit across the table from each other and couldn’t come up with much more than the weather. Maybe they had grown apart.

 Maybe. Maybe not. It’s possible to grow in different directions. It’s also possible to jam up the air waves. When communication gets jamed, there is typically nothing to talk about. The person sitting next to you or across the table shows up as a stranger who you would rather not be around. This is typically when the thought to move on starts to set in.

Before you dump this total stranger, consider your new reality may have more to do with the way you two have been communicating. . . or not, as is probably the case. Massive personality changes are rare.     

 Something to think about.

#10 – Internet dating

Friday, June 29th, 2007

Welcome to Voyeur Pod 3000! Boldly going where no podcast has gone before. Listen in as three women (and Pablo) discuss Internet dating. Guilty pleasures, yum!

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