Archive for the ‘Divorce’ Category

#51 Mommy, why do I have three dads?

Tuesday, June 24th, 2008

Welcome to my very first premium episode of Ask Dr. Harriet. Today, we meet a woman who not only is one of the foremost experts on divorce and the growing phenomenon of the multiple step family, she and her husband also are part of a large blended family. Ann Ordway is a divorce lawyer in New Jersey specializing in couples mediation, communication and family counseling. The sometimes devastating ways in which divorce and re-marriage impact children is why Ann and husband Steve started Little Voices. In this episode we discuss how you know when divorce is the only alternative, and steps you can take now to prevent your relationship from reaching that point. We also delve into how divorce has evolved in society, and what that means for children growing up. Music heard on this show includes Wouldn’t It Be Nice, by the Beach Boys and It’s Your Lucky Day Now, by AJ and the Frozen Tundra Blues Band.

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#50 Welcome Back

Tuesday, June 24th, 2008

Wait a minute, you haven’t been away, I have. And boy have I been busy creating a brand new series of shows aimed at providing you with the tools and techniques to help you thrive at this thing we call life!

Fittingly, we start with Life Coaching. What is it? How do you know you need one? Where can you find the best one for you? How does it work? What does it cost? Here are the straight answers to all your questions and more. I also hope you will sign up for my Premium podcast series were we will explore in-depth areas such as GenX-Y career development, divorce and step families, relationships and much more. Music heard on this show includes "Welcome Back" by John Sebastian.

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Laura Don’t Bolt

Friday, June 6th, 2008

Harriet KatzLaura’s call was the fifth call I received in the past two weeks. She was hysterical. Just a little while ago she was thrilled. She finally met Larry after being alone for 17 years. Her last serious relationship was shortly after college. She adores him. He loves her. He is recently divorced. The fly in the ointment: he has three teenagers. All of them are angry. Scared. Demanding.

Larry feels guilty much of the time. It wasn’t only his idea to break up the family. His wife was fed up with him as well. He still wants to be a good father. He is loaded with guilt. He is always buying the kids presents. Running around with them. But not spending enough “quality time.” Laura has been feeling like the fifth wheel. An unwilling competitor. She is beginning to doubt if they will ever have a reasonable life together. Wondering if being single is better than getting on board this ship.

Laura, getting Larry involves the whole complicated package. But if you love each other, it can be worked out. Not overnight. It will likely be a long challenging process. You will need to deal with anger you don’t deserve. With the kids competing for Larry’s love and attention until everyone finds a comfortable place. It will require a lot of patience. Understanding. Persistence. It can work. It can also bring you and Larry closer. And possibly ultimately a close relationship with one of more of the kids. Have you been through a similar situation? What happened? What did you learn from it? What, if anything, would you do differently now?

#49 – Crossroads

Wednesday, April 23rd, 2008

Funny how doing anything for exactly one year can often spawn an epiphany. It tugs at us to change direction, however minor the adjustment, to breathe new life into what seemed perfectly on-course until that 365 day marker appeared in the rearview mirror. Okay, enough suspense already. Harriet Katz is branching out! And what an exciting ride it is going to be! Music heard on this show includes You Ain’t Seen Nothin Yet by Bachman Turner Overdrive.

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#45 – Cheating Men

Monday, March 24th, 2008

spitzer_thumb.jpg Why do males of our species stray? Can personal history predict a repeat performance? How critical are communication breakdowns? Ladies, here’s a home remedy guaranteed to work magic on your relationship. Warning: you may not like the taste.

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Betrayed Wives

Sunday, March 16th, 2008

Harriet KatzI’ve been thinking about conversations taking place between husbands and wives around the world since Eliot Spitzer’s betrayal of his wife Silda hit the news. Why does their problem resonate so loudly to so many? Because betrayal is more widespread than we’d like to believe. Once discovered, trust is broken. Trust is the very foundation of a relationship. The question is, can it be repaired? (more…)

#33 – Best of 2007

Monday, December 31st, 2007

Harriet Katz

Ring in 2008 with a look back at our favorite moments of Ask Dr. Harriet. Ken and I hope you get as much enjoyment from listening to the very best of 2007 as we had bringing them to you! We’re excited about what’s cooking for our second season. Happy New Year my friends! Thanks so much for your loyalty! ~ Harriet.

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Time to Bolt?

Sunday, September 30th, 2007

I got to thinking today about a comment Valerie made about her relationship that recently ended. It was not the first time I heard that remark. Broken hearted Valerie told me that she and Vince had felt so comfortable with each other when they first became an item. They could talk about anything. She felt so free to be herself.  She felt adored and appreciated. He seemed too as well. Being together was easy. It was safe. It was wonderful. Then something changed.

 It wasn’t safe any longer. She felt criticized. He was not himself anymore. When they were together, they didn’t have anything to say. They would sit across the table from each other and couldn’t come up with much more than the weather. Maybe they had grown apart.

 Maybe. Maybe not. It’s possible to grow in different directions. It’s also possible to jam up the air waves. When communication gets jamed, there is typically nothing to talk about. The person sitting next to you or across the table shows up as a stranger who you would rather not be around. This is typically when the thought to move on starts to set in.

Before you dump this total stranger, consider your new reality may have more to do with the way you two have been communicating. . . or not, as is probably the case. Massive personality changes are rare.     

 Something to think about.

#17 – Marriage Talk

Wednesday, August 15th, 2007

We were so in love. What happened? If you’re lucky the honeymoon lasts two years. Then what? Fellow podcasters Pam & Steven join me from the Marriage Resource Center in Dearborn, Michigan to share the secrets of unions that last a lifetime. Be sure to catch their weekly Talkcast over at TalkShoe.com.

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