Archive for the ‘Expectations’ Category

It’s Chemistry

Tuesday, August 26th, 2008

Ever wonder why someone else got hired when your qualifications were as least as strong? Susan, Louise, and John recently wondered about it as well.  It’s not rocket science. But it is often under estimated. It’s not very difficult.

It’s chemistry. Chemistry accounts for 70% of hiring decisions. Chemistry continues to be the big driver once hired. Good chemistry comes from a good fit. Between you and your manager. Between you and the organization.  Good chemistry creates an ease. An  openness. Trust is established. You “get” each other. Communication comes naturally. Be aware and choose well:

  • Know your style, strengths and liabilities in dealing with people.
  • Take off your rose colored glasses when you are in job search mode. 
  • Listen to your gut. Notice how the person is with you. The appealing aspects. The things that make you uncomfortable.
  • Take the offer If you think you will flourish and grow. Don’t accept the offer if it negative. Makes you uncomfortable.
Remember, you will be spending most of your waking hours there. Make sure you want to be there. 

#51 Mommy, why do I have three dads?

Tuesday, June 24th, 2008

Welcome to my very first premium episode of Ask Dr. Harriet. Today, we meet a woman who not only is one of the foremost experts on divorce and the growing phenomenon of the multiple step family, she and her husband also are part of a large blended family. Ann Ordway is a divorce lawyer in New Jersey specializing in couples mediation, communication and family counseling. The sometimes devastating ways in which divorce and re-marriage impact children is why Ann and husband Steve started Little Voices. In this episode we discuss how you know when divorce is the only alternative, and steps you can take now to prevent your relationship from reaching that point. We also delve into how divorce has evolved in society, and what that means for children growing up. Music heard on this show includes Wouldn’t It Be Nice, by the Beach Boys and It’s Your Lucky Day Now, by AJ and the Frozen Tundra Blues Band.

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#50 Welcome Back

Tuesday, June 24th, 2008

Wait a minute, you haven’t been away, I have. And boy have I been busy creating a brand new series of shows aimed at providing you with the tools and techniques to help you thrive at this thing we call life!

Fittingly, we start with Life Coaching. What is it? How do you know you need one? Where can you find the best one for you? How does it work? What does it cost? Here are the straight answers to all your questions and more. I also hope you will sign up for my Premium podcast series were we will explore in-depth areas such as GenX-Y career development, divorce and step families, relationships and much more. Music heard on this show includes "Welcome Back" by John Sebastian.

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#48 – Girls Don’t Need Calculus

Tuesday, April 15th, 2008

Wall Street power brokers take notice. If Christina DelliSanti-Miller has her way your days of being a boys club are numbered. Meet "Athena" and the woman who founded it to help young women break down barriers at high-powered financial institutions. Music heard on this show includes "Money" by Pink Floyd.

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#46 – Mother-Daughter Relationships

Monday, March 31st, 2008

mother-daughter.jpg Today, an intimate snapshot of a very special, adult mother-daughter relationship. Thank you, Gabi! Music this episode includes “Child of Mine” by Carole King.

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Pushed Out

Tuesday, March 25th, 2008

Harriet KatzCindy called to say her work situation is going south, after more than twelve years. She is a Senior Vice President who had aspirations of gaining the top position in her department. But nine months ago Bob was hired to the post- ahead of Cindy. (more…)

#44 – He-She Stuff

Monday, March 17th, 2008

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It’s advice time. Ken dipped into our email bag and found five great questions- all about the never-ending battle of the sexes! Music includes “The Leprechaun” by the Brobodingnagrian Bards.

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#43 – Under Pressure part2

Sunday, March 9th, 2008

finalexam1.jpgFor many, going off to college is an exciting adventure. But what happens when the safety nets that protected you in high school are removed, replaced by the pressure to succeed? It is quite common to feel alone, confused, fearful, often depressed. My guest is therapist Dr. Lynda Doyle who has talked with dozens and dozens of college kids from the U.S. and other countries. She tells each of them the same thing: You’re absolutely normal!

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#42 – Under Pressure

Sunday, March 2nd, 2008

under-pressure_50.jpgColleges have always been pressure cookers. The crucibles in which young adults can be fired to greatness are also heating some students to dangerous levels. Suicide and attempts are rising, as is campus violence. What’s going on? Helping us to understand the myriad pressures that today’s kids are under is Dr. Lynda Doyle, a therapist in-touch with the college generation. We also look at the controversial book, "Doing School" by Denise Clark Pope. Music heard on the show includes "Under Pressure" by David Bowie.

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#39 – Career Interruptis

Monday, February 11th, 2008

Glass Ceilings & Sticky FloorsThe title of this post sounds like a disease (Ken wants to know if there’s a cure), because we – in particular, we women – can be afflicted with one form or another of this workplace malady. If it is true that GenY is driving a sea change of career attitudes and policy, why are young women still being held back? The answers are, like the subject, complex. My guest is author, journalist and career advice expert, Hannah Seligson. The book that spawned this interview is “It’s Not a Glass Ceiling, It’s a Sticky Floor,” by Rebecca Shambaugh.

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