Archive for the ‘Life’ Category

#53 Mr. Employer Meet the Millennials

Tuesday, July 8th, 2008

Are today’s Baby Boomer-led workplaces really ready for Generation Y? We found one IT manager who is not only ready but excited about the vast potential many of these new 20-something workmates bring to corporate America. Music this episode includes Generation Y by Clint VanSchiver and It’s Your Lucky Day Now by AJ and The Frozen Tundra Blues Band.

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#51 Mommy, why do I have three dads?

Tuesday, June 24th, 2008

Welcome to my very first premium episode of Ask Dr. Harriet. Today, we meet a woman who not only is one of the foremost experts on divorce and the growing phenomenon of the multiple step family, she and her husband also are part of a large blended family. Ann Ordway is a divorce lawyer in New Jersey specializing in couples mediation, communication and family counseling. The sometimes devastating ways in which divorce and re-marriage impact children is why Ann and husband Steve started Little Voices. In this episode we discuss how you know when divorce is the only alternative, and steps you can take now to prevent your relationship from reaching that point. We also delve into how divorce has evolved in society, and what that means for children growing up. Music heard on this show includes Wouldn’t It Be Nice, by the Beach Boys and It’s Your Lucky Day Now, by AJ and the Frozen Tundra Blues Band.

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#50 Welcome Back

Tuesday, June 24th, 2008

Wait a minute, you haven’t been away, I have. And boy have I been busy creating a brand new series of shows aimed at providing you with the tools and techniques to help you thrive at this thing we call life!

Fittingly, we start with Life Coaching. What is it? How do you know you need one? Where can you find the best one for you? How does it work? What does it cost? Here are the straight answers to all your questions and more. I also hope you will sign up for my Premium podcast series were we will explore in-depth areas such as GenX-Y career development, divorce and step families, relationships and much more. Music heard on this show includes "Welcome Back" by John Sebastian.

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Getting Ahead

Tuesday, June 17th, 2008

Harriet KatzMaybe it’s because of the political season. Maybe not. But I’ve been getting complaints about office politics, none-stop. They come from the young who are new to the world of work. Those who’ve been at the game a while, refer to office games as energy guzzlers. Retirees say it’s the thing they miss the least. Seems the only ones who get off on office games are the folks who spend the bulk of their time promoting themselves instead of doing the work. You can’t entirely ignore the games. But there is a better way to get ahead. 

In addition to performing really well, here are a few tips. 

  • Take the time to create your Career Plan. Think at least 5 – 10 years out. What kind of work would you like to be doing? At what level. What experience do you need to get there? What new skills? Knowledge? Consider opportunities in your organization. Identify possible outside opportunities. Power comes from unambiguous clarity of purpose.
  • Communicate clearly and frequently to important stakeholders about how well you are doing. Your importance and shelf life dwindle when communication ceases. Your stock goes up when you relay frequent, brief contacts about your accomplishments and progress. 
  • Take control.  You be the one to step up to the plate. Set the strategy. Take action. Always mind your manners. Bad behavior is usually a power play to intimidate. Don’t get caught in someone else’s game. At work there are no winners or losers. There are those who take control. And there are those who lose it.
There’s lots more to talk about. What lessons have you learned at work? What have you faced? Has it soured you? What did you do to get past it? 

Laura Don’t Bolt

Friday, June 6th, 2008

Harriet KatzLaura’s call was the fifth call I received in the past two weeks. She was hysterical. Just a little while ago she was thrilled. She finally met Larry after being alone for 17 years. Her last serious relationship was shortly after college. She adores him. He loves her. He is recently divorced. The fly in the ointment: he has three teenagers. All of them are angry. Scared. Demanding.

Larry feels guilty much of the time. It wasn’t only his idea to break up the family. His wife was fed up with him as well. He still wants to be a good father. He is loaded with guilt. He is always buying the kids presents. Running around with them. But not spending enough “quality time.” Laura has been feeling like the fifth wheel. An unwilling competitor. She is beginning to doubt if they will ever have a reasonable life together. Wondering if being single is better than getting on board this ship.

Laura, getting Larry involves the whole complicated package. But if you love each other, it can be worked out. Not overnight. It will likely be a long challenging process. You will need to deal with anger you don’t deserve. With the kids competing for Larry’s love and attention until everyone finds a comfortable place. It will require a lot of patience. Understanding. Persistence. It can work. It can also bring you and Larry closer. And possibly ultimately a close relationship with one of more of the kids. Have you been through a similar situation? What happened? What did you learn from it? What, if anything, would you do differently now?

#49 – Crossroads

Wednesday, April 23rd, 2008

Funny how doing anything for exactly one year can often spawn an epiphany. It tugs at us to change direction, however minor the adjustment, to breathe new life into what seemed perfectly on-course until that 365 day marker appeared in the rearview mirror. Okay, enough suspense already. Harriet Katz is branching out! And what an exciting ride it is going to be! Music heard on this show includes You Ain’t Seen Nothin Yet by Bachman Turner Overdrive.

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#48 – Girls Don’t Need Calculus

Tuesday, April 15th, 2008

Wall Street power brokers take notice. If Christina DelliSanti-Miller has her way your days of being a boys club are numbered. Meet "Athena" and the woman who founded it to help young women break down barriers at high-powered financial institutions. Music heard on this show includes "Money" by Pink Floyd.

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#47 – Are We There Yet?

Tuesday, April 8th, 2008

female symbolWomen’s Lib. Betty Friedan. Rowe v Wade. Helen Reddy. What would you say are the three most significant changes for women that have taken place in the last 30 to 40 years? And what do they mean for women today and tomorrow? Our guest this week is Dr. Debra Kaufman, Director of Womens’ Studies at Northeastern University. Music heard on this show includes “I Am Woman” by Helen Reddy and “Ain’t No Stoppin’ Us Now” by Zindy.

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Your Dime

Tuesday, April 1st, 2008

Harriet KatzI heard from a listener that this week’s podcast on Mother/Daughter Relationships was not helpful. My (seemingly “idyllic”) experience with my daughter Gabi doesn’t resemble normal mother/daughter relationships. I disagree. (more…)

#46 – Mother-Daughter Relationships

Monday, March 31st, 2008

mother-daughter.jpg Today, an intimate snapshot of a very special, adult mother-daughter relationship. Thank you, Gabi! Music this episode includes “Child of Mine” by Carole King.

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