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Story Talk

Sunday, September 23rd, 2007

It’s the week-end, a time when most working people are officially “off duty.” I’ve been wondering on this beautiful day if you’re actually “off duty.” While you may not be officially “on duty,” I’ll bet you are “on duty” with stories of past and possible future failures or thoughts of having been victimized. Possibly every once in a while you may think about a happy moment or gratifying achievement.

While you’re “on duty” file this: your stories profoundly effect how you see yourself as well as how others see you. If you’re running harmful themes nonstop through your head, you’re setting up self limitations, and unnecessarily complicating your life. Negative stories disengage, block personal growth, and turn you into a victim. Positive stories mobilize you to dig deeper and make tough values-based choices that lead to expanded growth. The right stories deepen your engagement in life, keep hope alive and, despite risks, inspire you to take courageous action.

These stories of yours persist out of habit. As long as negative themes continue, there is little chance for positive change. To change your outcomes:

  • Consciously reconstruct your main story to be optimistic
  • Link it to your core values and goals.
  • Deliberately repeat it until it becomes your new habit. (This can take 3 months.) An affirmative personal story is necessary for successful personal change. The right story engenders courage and deepens determination.

Now, I’m “off duty.”

Have a great day!