It’s my way or the highway. Your feelings don’t count. Your way will never work. Your idea is stupid. There’s one way to deal with it–whatever “it” happens to be. My way. Sound familiar? What are your choices? You can buy into the tyrant’s beliefs. Play small. Remain scared. Or you can stand up to him or her. Sounds easy. So why is it sometimes so hard?

Fear. Fear you’ll anger the tyrant. Fear you’re not sure. Fear you might be wrong. When you operate out of fear, you lose confidence. You second guess yourself. You hesitate. You put off. You choose by not choosing .You give the tyrant the power to choose for you.

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Ring in 2008 with a look back at our favorite moments of Ask Dr. Harriet. Ken and I hope you get as much enjoyment from listening to the very best of 2007 as we had bringing them to you! We’re excited about what’s cooking for our second season. Happy New Year my friends! Thanks so much for your loyalty! ~ Harriet.

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As the countdown to January 1st (fill-in the year) reaches single-digits, millions of us faithfully proclaim - sometimes aloud (gasp!) - our resolve to lose, change, acquire or better-balance something. What fools these mortals be. Studies show 4-out-of-5 resolutions are broken. Why? A little something called “ownership.” Happy New Year, anyway! Thanks for your loyalty and see you next year! Music this episode includes “My New Year’s Resolution” by Spike Jones. Web sites mentioned include Procrastinators Club of America.

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Been dumped by text message yet? Your lover tell you it’s over… by e-mail? A new study says many bozos are choosing the cowardly way out. Great! Like we need another reason for the holiday blues. Bad enough being single this time of year. Well cheer up (literally!). Here’s how to have the last laugh. Tips on surviving family get togethers too. Need more advice? You can always reach me by e-mail.

Music heard on this show includes “The Thrill is Gone” by B.B. King.

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Not enough money. Not enough time. Family expectations. The “Supposed Tos” wring all the joy out of the holiday season. Why do we play the game? Here’s some sound advice to help you avoid the traps and have more fun.

Eat your heart out, Christie’s. The 1% FTP auction raised nearly $19k. JJ’s guitar went for $15-hundred and change!

Music heard on this show includes “Money, Money, Money” by ABBA.

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Tis the supposed to season. The Holidays!! The time of stress. The season of pressures. You’re supposed to shop. You’re supposed to be social. You’re supposed to decorate. You’re supposed to cook. You’re supposed to be fun. No shortage of expectations. And so little time! What’s a person to do?

I’ll bet you are pushing yourself to do what’s expected. Running yourself ragged. Yearning for some down time. Time for you. Do you dare?
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Users usually want money. Yours. Or sex. Maybe you’ve dated one of these guys. Trouble is, users are not easily spotted. Often they come disguised as well-meaning relatives, or the neighbor who never seems to have whatever it is he/she is always borrowing. Users are expert manipulators. Here’s how (and when) to say NO and mean it.

One Percent for the Planet is auctioning off tons of Green goodies, including a Jack Johnson autographed guitar! Penguin Pods donated podcast consulting- go get some! All of us involved give at least 1% of all sales to environmental causes. Please join us!

Music this episode includes “29″ by Dominic Castillo and the Rock Savants.

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Sharon’s in her 40s, beautiful, trim, outgoing, active, has a good career and says she is ready for love and committment. She wonders why she can’t find the right guy. Turns out, like so many people, Sharon has no chance of changing things until she becomes available. I’ve a homework assignment that’s perfect for procrastinators: it’s not due until next Turkey Day! Happy Thanksgiving, friends!

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Andy and John are upset. She is one strong woman. He’s a minority. They’ve worked together for years in the same financial services firm. Last year both earned Vice President Titles. Then Bob came onto the scene. Since he’s taken over, the department turned toxic. They thought they were insiders. Now they find they’re outsiders.

Bob is accusatory. He routinely changes course. Then he goes at them for being too slow. He gossips behind their backs. He allows and encourages young hires to make unfounded accusations.
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Sammy just got downsized. He’s devastated. What will he say to his partner? His kids? They depnd on him. He’s in his 40s. His manager has talked alot about youth. They’re cheaper. They’ve better computer skills. More savvy with Internet marketing. Less responsibilities. He’s worried he won’t ever make the same money. How will he live on less? No loyalty. No protection. No future.
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