Posts Tagged ‘Negative thoughts’

The Tyrant

Monday, January 7th, 2008

It’s my way or the highway. Your feelings don’t count. Your way will never work. Your idea is stupid. There’s one way to deal with it–whatever “it” happens to be. My way. Sound familiar? What are your choices? You can buy into the tyrant’s beliefs. Play small. Remain scared. Or you can stand up to him or her. Sounds easy. So why is it sometimes so hard?

Fear. Fear you’ll anger the tyrant. Fear you’re not sure. Fear you might be wrong. When you operate out of fear, you lose confidence. You second guess yourself. You hesitate. You put off. You choose by not choosing .You give the tyrant the power to choose for you.

How can you stand up for yourself? (more…)

The Outsider

Tuesday, October 16th, 2007

Mary reminded me of what life is like for The Outsider. She is 50 and her older sister, Sue, is 56. In the early years mom was alcoholic and could get pretty nasty. Dad flew the coup before Mary was 10. It was a home filled with anger and accusations. Sue has never been happy. Doesn’t matter that she married and raised two kids. She used to rant at mom. Now it’s Mary. Holidays have turned into nightmares for Mary.

Last summer mom fell and broke her hip. She’s now finished rehab and back home. Whatever Mary does it’s never good enough. (more…)